(Re) write your story
My fascination with therapy began when I was in my Senior year of high school, dealing with the death of a friend and grandpa plus receiving the news that my best friend's mom was losing her battle to cancer. These events catapulted my career as a healer, beginning with Public Health, then as a Massage Therapist, Therapeutic Yoga and Meditation teacher and now writer and painter. For the past nine years as a student of these crafts and a patient of a few amazing psychologists, I have been given tons of advice and information that I've used to help my own clients along with myself.
Today I'd like to share with you one of the best tools I have been given, if not the best piece of advice I've received thus far. It was shared with me from a friend who specializes in family therapy. We were having a discussion and her response to the information I shared with her was
“Ok, how can we rewrite your story? How do we normalize this?”
When she said this to me it was like a light bulb went off in my head. It was like everything I had learned all came to a head and all of the angels came down at once and said “ahhh!!!”
Out of all seriousness, though, it was such an a-ha! moment. So what she was really saying was “you have the power to see this differently.”
Now nobody's life is perfect. We each have a battle or battles to deal with at any given time, but the most amazing part about this is that we can actually choose to see these battles how ever we want. We can actually choose to succumb to the suffering or we can choose to define it in a way that makes it bearable, or enjoyable, or better yet, funny.
This applies to literally every single area of our lives-from love to career to health, you name it. You, my friend are in the driver's seat.
Here is an example: You just got fired.
There are two things you can do: 1. Slander your boss, apply for unemployment and complain that you got screwed over while refusing to find another job because “corporations suck” or “you were treated unfairly” or try to sue the company.
OR 2. See it as a kick in the ass to make moves and find a job that will better suit you, do some soul searching to figure out what that is and find a way to make it happen.
The Key here is that you have a choice. I like to remember the quote “It's not what happens to you, it's how you react that matters.” -Epictetus
So while you may not be able to avoid the tornado that destroys your house or the dog that ate your $500 shoes (I don't know about you but for me that's a lot!), you have the power to define each event, each moment and to be the author, the artist, the director of your life. You have the power to write your own story. And with that I wish you all the best-get writing!